Quote by @sara_flint ... ❤️ she wrote a blog post about her family’s journey from one baby to two! Check it out on my blog (link in bio). ————————————

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New Episode!

EP29. Coach Jackie Power (@coachjackiep) educates, inspires, and entertains in this episode about parenting a child with special needs or, exceptionalities. Topics include: genetic disorders, how to access resources, what to say and not to say to parents with a special needs child, and how she processed her daughters diagnosis. #themomroompodcast #mompodcast

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How is there not a reality show based on toddlers? Dramaaaaaaaa. ——- #momcomedy #honestmom #toddlermom #parentingtips #torontomoms #toddlersofinstagram #toddlerlife #toddlerlife #parentingishard #momsbelike #tiktok #parentsbelike #momhumour #momhumor #funnymoms #parentingmeme #momprobs #toddlersofinstagram #sarcasticmom #momsbelike #mommeme #funnymoms #motherhood #momtruths #momstruggles #parentinghumour #parentsbelike #parentingmeme #parenting101 #myhonestmotherhood

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Multitasking. Stretch & a blow-dry. ——— 
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Multitasking. Stretch & a blow-dry....

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Everything CBD with @icaria.co founder Nadya Pecherskaya. 

EP27. Renee chats with Nadya Pecherskaya, the founder of ICARIA, a Vancouver-based CBD oil company. While there has been a huge rise in the popularity of CBD and CBD oil, not many people know what it is and what it can do for us. Nadya explains what CBD is, what it can be used for, and she debunks several CBD myths. If you are thinking about trying CBD, or you\'re just curious what all the fuss is about, this episode is for you. #cbdoil #icaria #themomroompodcast #cbd #cbdhealth

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Getting Milo to eat dinner has been a struggle lately. Luckily he eats like a champ at daycare. 🙄 the best audio from @itsjameskennedy @lalakent ————————- #momcomedy #honestmom #toddlermom #parentingtips #torontomoms #toddlersofinstagram #tiredmomsbelike #toddlerlife #parentingishard #momsbelike #tiktok #parentsbelike #momhumour #momhumor #funnymoms #parentingmeme #momprobs #bloggermom #sarcasticmom #momsbelike #mommeme #funnymoms #motherhood #momtruths #momstruggles #parentinghumour #parentsbelike #parentingmeme #parenting101 #myhonestmotherhood

Getting Milo to eat dinner...

It was a long weekend in Canada... and a rough one for us. I’m still getting over a sinus infection and I had no energy. We watched a lot of Toy Story, left the house just a couple times to go get groceries or go for a drive. I always feel bad for Milo when we’re not busy doing stuff on the weekends. I project my urge to always be busy doing something onto Milo (and my husband). My husband had to remind me several times that Milo was super happy to be home with us eating Veggie Straws and watching Toy Story. I know he’s right... but, mom guilt tells me otherwise. F U mom guilt. You suck.🙄 
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It was a long weekend...

The latest blog post was written by @sara_flint... she wrote about her family’s journey from one child to two. I get so many messages every time I talk or post about our decision to only have one child. So many couples struggle with this. “How did you know you only wanted one?” I get asked that all the time. Sara’s story is probably very relatable for so many moms out there! ❤️ Click the link in my bio for my blog or go to www.reneereina.com/saras-story 
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The latest blog post was...

Postpartum Anxiety: Cathy’s Story

A few days ago I briefly posted on my Instagram stories (@molassesandbread) about postpartum anxiety and the response to that post was huge! Many of you related in some way, and/or wanted to know more so here we go.

It started as baby blues, crying, anxiety, mood swings, but… I was told this was all very normal in the first few weeks postpartum. So, I waited it out. But it didn’t stop. “Well, we also just bought a house and are moving” I told myself. We closed the deal the same week I delivered. We moved when Addie was 3 months. And yet, it continued. I screamed when I was in the car because I imagined car accidents. I froze at the top of the stairs because I “saw” us falling. I stayed glued to the monitor ALL NIGHT watching her breathe. I described those intrusive thoughts as a nightmare while awake.

I screamed when I was in the car because I imagined car accidents. I froze at the top of the stairs because I “saw” us falling. I stayed glued to the monitor ALL NIGHT watching her breathe.

Everything felt so much more difficult, I was in love with my daughter and wanted to give her the best, but I was SO exhausted from all the worry. I was afraid to go out but also strangled with guilt about not getting her to activities that would further her development.  What if the building wasn’t accessible? What if I couldn’t manage her crying while I was out? What if.. what if… but what if she lacks skills because I DIDN’T take her?! I couldn’t win.

But I explained it away. I had anxiety about the anxiety (meta anxiety my therapist calls it). What did it mean about my parenting? I didn’t want people to think I didn’t LOVE being a mom – because I did. That was the problem. I was obsessed. Obsessed with things I couldn’t control. But if I could control something, I did. Did I check the railings on the stairs today to make sure they’re secure? Hmm. Better check again. Is she in her car seat right? Better pull over and check again. These thoughts and feelings can really steal the joy from the otherwise beautiful moments (and added to the stress of the hard moments).

At my 6-week follow-up appointment with my OB, I was given a screening tool for postpartum mood disorders, but having a background in standardized tests, I knew how to fudge the numbers to make it look like things weren’t a breeze, but well within the normal range (why is the scoring key right on the front of the test?! C’mon people!).  I was asked by a nurse at one of Addie’s well visits about my moods but it was phrased “you don’t have (*whispering*) *postpartum* do you?” so, of course I didn’t feel comfortable admitting to what I was feeling.  She made it feel even more shameful, like it couldn’t be said out loud. (side note: this is exactly why it’s important we talk about PPA/PPD and normalize it!)

It wasn’t until Addie was 9 months that I finally said something to my doctor (with my husband’s help and encouragement), and believe me… he tried to get me to say something plenty of times sooner. I couldn’t. I felt so much shame about having anxiety because I knew my thoughts were “crazy”, I KNEW these events were unlikely, and I KNEW worrying about them couldn’t change the outcome. But, anxiety isn’t rational. My doctor was great. It was a relief just saying it out loud. She normalized it and referred me to a women’s reproductive mental health clinic (how fortunate that I could access this via our government services!), Covid hit at the same time so the wait was longer than usual but I was finally receiving services before Addie’s first birthday.

I’d be lying if I said the wait was easy, even once I received the screening and was deemed eligible for services, my anxiety told me I was stupid, that I was taking someone else’s spot, that I wasn’t WORTHY of help. Thankfully, after my first appointment, these feelings quickly faded, I felt understood, I felt heard, and that initial anxiety started melting away.  I finally felt like I was worth the time and effort.

I felt so much shame about having anxiety because I knew my thoughts were “crazy”, I KNEW these events were unlikely, and I KNEW worrying about them couldn’t change the outcome. But, anxiety isn’t rational.

I regret not saying something sooner now, because one great resource (The Pregnancy and Postpartum workbook) and a few sessions has already made an incredible difference. I now have tools that I can use to help me cope with my worry, and help me come back to “calm”, or at least a place where I can think more rationally and/or ask for help now when I’m feeling worried or overwhelmed. Even knowing that I have the tools, and that they work has helped reduce my day to day anxiety.  Interactions with my husband are better, and there is so much more joy spending time with daughter now that the fog of worry has been lifted.

Postpartum anxiety is so much more common than people think (approximately 15% of mothers being affected – keeping in mind, this is only based on those actually reporting symptoms).  Postpartum depression is finally getting some attention now, but there’s still a long way to go in bringing awareness to ALL postpartum mood disorders. Also, worthy to note: men also get mood disorders after the birth of a child – and I think A LOT more attention needs to go there too. But, women’s health in general is greatly under-represented in research and general knowledge/awareness. So, the more we talk about it the better.

So please, if you’re struggling with postpartum or any mental health issues, speak up. The more we do, the more it’s normalized. The more it’s normalized, the more support we can access. And PLEASE… don’t wait as long as I did, but if you have, know that it’s not too late! There’s always time to make your life just a little bit better.

**photo by: April McColeman Photography


How to get help if you need it:

  • If you are worried or feel like you may harm yourself or your child, please, call 9-11 or attend your local emergency services immediately
  • Talk to your doctor, they should be able to refer you to the appropriate mental health services
  • Contact your local mental health agency. For mental health services in Ontario, call 1-866-531-2600 (toll-free).
  • The pregnancy and postpartum workbook (linked in article above – available on amazon)
  • Talk to a trusted friend or family member, it’s amazing how much sharing can help (and they can help with baby steps, like going with you when you leave the house at first)
XOXO Renee Reina

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