Tomorrow is the day! I’m going to start doing some @growco.rehab from home! The classes are focused on the pelvic floor and the core (rhymes). 

Before having Milo I had zero issues with my pelvic floor. I was told I had almost Olympic strength pelvic floor muscles! 🏋🏼‍♀️ 

I wasn’t worried about having postpartum issues. I had a pretty normal birth experience. Don’t get me wrong, it sucked and I had tearing, swelling, and didn’t feel back to normal for a long ass time. WAY longer than 6 weeks! 

After recovering I didn’t notice any issues until about 18 months postpartum. First it was a sneeze and leak, then it was a TikTok dance and a leak. Then came the horrible lower back pain. 

Think about a sprained ankle. If you don’t do the proper rehab, even though you are “recovered” and you can walk again, over time issues start to arise. Stiffness, tightness, pain, etc. Then you start compensating for your bad ankle and issues start to arise in your knee or other random places you never previously injured. 

THE SAME THING HAPPENS TO YOUR PELVIC FLOOR/CORE AFTER PREGNANCY AND CHILDBIRTH! 

After just learning to breathe into my pelvic floor and relax my muscles, my lower back pain is almost non-existent. 

Now I’m ready to do more with the help of @drallicain and @growco.rehab. 

They have a Black Friday sale on this week. 50% off your one time payment to be a life long member! 

If you’re interested in joining me in this postpartum rehab journey, click the link in my bio ♥️ 
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Tomorrow is the day! I’m...

The Mom Room Podcast 🎙

EP37. Renee has an honest chat with sleep and wellness consultant, Angela Bueno (@nurtureevesleep). Topics include: the difference between your baby BEING independent and ACTING independent; emotional regulation or \"self-soothing\"; attachment; validating a mother\'s instincts, and; so much more. 

There is a lot of pressure to get your baby sleeping through the night now a days. Angela is all about doing what is best for YOUR family and not letting other people decide what is a problem for you. Nurture Eve Sleep offers sleep support that focuses on connection and validates your instincts. #themomroompodcast

The Mom Room Podcast 🎙...

We had such a rough morning with Milo today. He was having a hard time. The biggest meltdown happened after his granola bar broke in half. You would have thought someone just told him he could never see Buzz or Woody again. That was the level of meltdown. 

I tried to fix everything by offering him a new granola bar. Just when I thought everything would be okay, that one broke too. Cue an even worse meltdown. I felt bad because clearly that was very upsetting for him. 

When he calmed down we went for a walk (him being constrained in a stroller was appealing). After our walk we decided to go for a car ride to McDonalds and get lunch. He watched Paw Patrol on our way there. 

I handed him french fries on the drive home. He was so happy. And it was at that moment that I realized why they call it a “Happy Meal”. 🍟 @mcdonaldscanada ————— 

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We had such a rough...

Prior to me hitting record Milo was NOT having his socks and shoes. I thought he was gonna have to go barefoot. But, the recording and all the options to make him feel like he was in control really helped! 😃 my first #winning toddler life IGTV!

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Teeth brushing has gone through so many phases. Went well for a while, wouldn’t do it for a while, now he’s obsessed with toothpaste... 🤦🏼‍♀️ #momcomedy #honestmom #toddlermom #parentingtips #toddlers #toddlersofinstagram #tiredmomsbelike #toddlerlife #parentingishard #momsbelike #tiktok #parentsbelike #momhumour #momhumor #funnymoms #parentingmeme #momprobs #bloggermom #sarcasticmom #momsbelike #mommeme #funnymoms #motherhood #momtruths #momstruggles #parentinghumour #parentsbelike #parentingmeme #parenting101 #myhonestmotherhood

Teeth brushing has gone through...

Episode #35. Renee chats with pediatric physiotherapist, Jennifer Halfin about all things physical development. They discuss the physical development milestone ranges (the ranges are huge by the way), tips for helping your little one to master certain skills, and playground safety. Milestones can be a very stressful part of parenting but, it doesn\'t have to be. We hope the information in this episode will be educational for parents and decrease any stress they may have around common physical milestones like sitting up, crawling, and walking.  @torontokidsphysio #themomroompodcast

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And that is a fact. 😁 @gocleanco 
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And that is a fact....

Dear people who think the decision to have children should be based solely on whether you ENJOY playing with kids... #momcomedy #honestmom #toddlermom #parentingtips #torontomoms #toddlersofinstagram #tiredmomsbelike #toddlerlife #parentingishard #momsbelike #tiktok #parentsbelike #momhumour #momhumor #funnymoms #parentingmeme #momprobs #bloggermom #sarcasticmom #momsbelike #mommeme #funnymoms #motherhood #momtruths #momstruggles #parentinghumour #parentsbelike #parentingmeme #parenting101 #myhonestmotherhood

Dear people who think the...

Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Parents & Do These Four Things Instead.

As I recorded the momposter syndrome episode of the podcast, I talked about comparing ourselves to other parents and comparing our children to other children. Since Milo was born, there have been a few things that he wasn’t doing “as well” as other babies his age. He was born on the smaller side (6lbs) and at around two or three months, he wasn’t lifting his head like other babies. I also despised tummy time, so I’m sure that didn’t help. I did it, but I didn’t like it, and I’m sure we didn’t do is as often as “they” say you should. I did feel a bit bad about that, but, I couldn’t handle seeing him squirm and look like he was pained trying to keep his head up. I felt bad for the poor little nugget. It’s kind of like those people you see at the gym who go ALL OUT and they make weird sounds and their faces are bright red. And, you’re watching them thinking like “omg, just take it easy… do you want some water?” He was like the newborn version of one of those people and his tummy time was like their hardcore CrossFit class. Anyways, in the back of my mind I knew he would catch up to everyone else. There’s not many kids walking around who can’t lift their heads. So, I tried to just do what I was comfortable doing and not give other babies’ Hercules neck strength much thought.

You have to have the mindset of… “in 6 months from now, is this even going to matter?” Most of the time the answer is no. 

Fast forward several months and I felt like we were the only parents not doing baby-led weaning. My friends would bring over their babies who were Milo’s age and they would hand them huge pieces of cucumber and full strawberries. And I probably stared at them in awe. Wondering if they were as anxious as I was watching their kids eat. Before Milo started on solids, I had bought some books on baby-led weaning. I was all for it because that’s what everyone said was the best thing to do now. I had fully intended on doing baby-led weaning but, after the first attempt at very soft sweet potato and avocado… I gave up. I was too anxious about choking. And, people could tell me one million times that gagging is totally normal and they will almost always spit it out if they’re going to choke, etc. I don’t care! I wasn’t comfortable with it. So, bring on the purée recipes and food processor.


What should you do instead of comparing yourself to other parents and comparing your child to another child? 


  1. BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR DECISIONS: Be informed about safety measures and all that jazz but, ultimately it is going to come down to what feels right for your family. For some reason people can’t just acknowledge that what works for them may not work for another family. This leads to judging others when they don’t do what YOU do and what works for YOUR family. It also leads to insecurities about parenting decisions or “momposter syndrome” because you are ruminating about other people’s parenting choices. Deep down we know what feels right for us and for our family. So, do that and be in love with your decisions.
  2. ACCEPT THAT SOME THINGS ARE NOT YOUR PRIORITY: I love this so much. I am this way in all areas of my life. You have to realize that YOU CAN spend 45 minutes making homemade, organic tomato soup with almond flour biscuits in the shape of Emma Wiggle for lunch. You could! But, that may not be a priority for you. For another parent that may be a priority. They get joy out of making sh*t like that for their kids. And for them, that is fantastic. Currently, that is not a priority for me. But, who knows what next week will bring!? We all have things we prioritize when it comes to our kids, ourselves, and our relationships. Don’t get jealous or feel bad about yourself because you don’t have the same priorities as someone else. Instead of thinking “ugh, I suck” when you see what other parents are doing, think “I would do that too if it were a priority right now… maybe it will be one day.”
  3. ADMIRE AND APPRECIATE: We all have things we do well. I think it’s human nature for us to highlight those things we are good at. ESPECIALLY on social media. Am I right? Or, am I right? For example, Janet always posts photos of her kid’s cute and super healthy lunches. Janet spends lots of time thinking about lunch ideas, planning lunches, food prep, etc. Janet clearly enjoys doing this and she is proud of her lunch creations. She should be! They are super cute! Your reaction when you see things that parents are doing for their children should be admiration and appreciation. Admiration because if you had the choice between Janet’s lunch or your lunch, you would choose Janet’s (but, that sh*t isn’t your priority right now). And, appreciation because you know she is putting lots of time and effort into the lunches. It’s okay to not care about things that other parents care about. That doesn’t make you a bad parent.
  4. BE INSPIRED, NOT BITTER: Don’t get down on yourself when you see what other parents are doing. Get inspired. Maybe you try baking cookies with your toddler one day because you saw your friend do it with her toddler on Instagram. Maybe it ends up being a total shit-show. That’s okay. Remember that most people are just showing the few nice photos they captured and not the nightmare that it resulted in. Pinterest and social media are great resources for parents. But, only if you’re consuming the content with the intention of getting inspiration and not looking at it as a never-ending list of things you don’t do.

XOXO Renee Reina

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4 Comments
  • Courtney
    July 6, 2020

    This is so helpful and are things I really need to practice at doing. My daughter is turning one this month and having such a large chuck of her life so far be in quarantine, it often bums me out. I have felt inadequate because of the experiences I haven’t been able to provide for her, the things I “should” be doing with her or for her. The increased time I’ve spent on social media hasn’t helped the situation. This really helps to put things in perspective and reminds me that I’m not the only mom having these feelings sometimes. Self isolation seems to be more common of a thing moms do to themselves than I ever would have thought before becoming a mom myself. The topics you cover in your blog (and your tiktoks/IG) have helped to remind me that I’m not the only one on this mom island. Thank you!

    • Courtney
      July 6, 2020

      chunk* (smh)

  • Cassandra Balzer
    July 7, 2020

    Love this post!! It sounds like such a basic concept but it’s really not. Every one does it at some point, this is a great reminder that nobody can be the mom to my kids but me so appreciate what I can do in a day and not fret about what I cannot do!

    Great post, I also appreciate how you don’t over complicate an issue and just say it like it is!!!

  • Allison
    August 25, 2020

    So much of this . Thank you for sharing! We are in the early days of solids, and I had the exact same response to those first few bites of solid foods. Sheer panic and stress!! There’s enough responsibility keeping your tiny human alive, there’s no need to add additional pressure for what we feel we should be doing.

    So glad I stumbled upon your blog! Ya! For my endless scrolling of TikTok while rocking a baby to sleep!

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