My favourite thing that I get to do through @the.mom.room platforms is connect with other moms. Share our experiences, our feelings, our ups and downs. I love when I share something that I’m experiencing or going through and a ton of moms message me to tell me they are going through the same thing. I think we all assume that we are the only ones experiencing certain emotions or struggles but, when we open up to one another we find out that all these things are so insanely common. From small things like feeling like shit when you’re trying to make dinner and your child is playing by themselves (ahem, mom guilt), or bigger things like struggling to breastfeed, postpartum anxiety, or infertility. It is comforting to know that we’re not alone in these things.
Moms feel uncomfortable talking about their struggles or the shitty parts of motherhood because they fear judgement from other moms. And, they fear judgement from other moms because other moms only share the positive.
I think a huge issue among moms (especially new moms) is that many are not comfortable opening up about their struggles (especially to other moms). It is like a vicious cycle. Moms feel uncomfortable talking about their struggles or the shitty parts of motherhood because they fear judgement from other moms. And, they fear judgement from other moms because other moms only share the positive. Obviously no one wants to be the only one saying anything negative or admitting they struggle with something. People are going to think you don’t love your children. People are going to think you regret your decision to have a child. People are going to think you shouldn’t have had a child. People are going to feel bad for your child. People are going to think you’re a bad mom.
Shortly after having Milo, I think I just decided that I didn’t care what other people thought. Hence all my social media content and blog/podcast content. At first I felt a little awkward about sharing certain things (because I didn’t know whether other moms would relate or think I was odd, haha). But the response to so many topics I discuss is OVERWHELMINGLY positive. It became clear pretty quick that so many of us don’t want f*cking visitors after bringing home our baby, experience mom guilt over stupid shit, feel like the default parent, etc.
I had been thinking about how to create a community of moms… a mom gang, if you will.
I had been thinking about how to create a community of moms (a mom gang, if you will) where we could chat regularly, discuss different topics together via the podcast, and of course have a private Instagram account. A no filter, no bullshit, real life motherhood kinda gang. I created The Mom Room Community
through Patreon and I am so excited about it. It’s kinda like we’re sorority sisters, but instead of going to frat parties together, we have online parties that end by 9:30pm because we all want to go to sleep. And, we’re not chugging beer, we’re either sipping a glass of wine or a cup of organic mint tea.
As a member of The Mom Room Community, you receive:
- BONUS PODCAST EPISODES: These will include solo episodes and also candid one-on-one conversations with YOU GUYS! These will only be available for members.
- BI-WEEKLY LIVE CHATS: Twice a month we can chat via Instagram Live. I would like to also plan some Zoom chats so I can see your faces!
- PRIVATE MOM ROOM COMMUNITY: This will be a private Instagram account for members only.
If you want to find out more information about The Mom Room Community, click HERE. Everything starts on September 1st! If you have any questions, please feel free to email me at email@example.com. Thank you so much. You guys are freaking awesome.