Tomorrow is the day! I’m going to start doing some @growco.rehab from home! The classes are focused on the pelvic floor and the core (rhymes). 

Before having Milo I had zero issues with my pelvic floor. I was told I had almost Olympic strength pelvic floor muscles! 🏋🏼‍♀️ 

I wasn’t worried about having postpartum issues. I had a pretty normal birth experience. Don’t get me wrong, it sucked and I had tearing, swelling, and didn’t feel back to normal for a long ass time. WAY longer than 6 weeks! 

After recovering I didn’t notice any issues until about 18 months postpartum. First it was a sneeze and leak, then it was a TikTok dance and a leak. Then came the horrible lower back pain. 

Think about a sprained ankle. If you don’t do the proper rehab, even though you are “recovered” and you can walk again, over time issues start to arise. Stiffness, tightness, pain, etc. Then you start compensating for your bad ankle and issues start to arise in your knee or other random places you never previously injured. 

THE SAME THING HAPPENS TO YOUR PELVIC FLOOR/CORE AFTER PREGNANCY AND CHILDBIRTH! 

After just learning to breathe into my pelvic floor and relax my muscles, my lower back pain is almost non-existent. 

Now I’m ready to do more with the help of @drallicain and @growco.rehab. 

They have a Black Friday sale on this week. 50% off your one time payment to be a life long member! 

If you’re interested in joining me in this postpartum rehab journey, click the link in my bio ♥️ 
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Tomorrow is the day! I’m...

The Mom Room Podcast 🎙

EP37. Renee has an honest chat with sleep and wellness consultant, Angela Bueno (@nurtureevesleep). Topics include: the difference between your baby BEING independent and ACTING independent; emotional regulation or \"self-soothing\"; attachment; validating a mother\'s instincts, and; so much more. 

There is a lot of pressure to get your baby sleeping through the night now a days. Angela is all about doing what is best for YOUR family and not letting other people decide what is a problem for you. Nurture Eve Sleep offers sleep support that focuses on connection and validates your instincts. #themomroompodcast

The Mom Room Podcast 🎙...

We had such a rough morning with Milo today. He was having a hard time. The biggest meltdown happened after his granola bar broke in half. You would have thought someone just told him he could never see Buzz or Woody again. That was the level of meltdown. 

I tried to fix everything by offering him a new granola bar. Just when I thought everything would be okay, that one broke too. Cue an even worse meltdown. I felt bad because clearly that was very upsetting for him. 

When he calmed down we went for a walk (him being constrained in a stroller was appealing). After our walk we decided to go for a car ride to McDonalds and get lunch. He watched Paw Patrol on our way there. 

I handed him french fries on the drive home. He was so happy. And it was at that moment that I realized why they call it a “Happy Meal”. 🍟 @mcdonaldscanada ————— 

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We had such a rough...

Prior to me hitting record Milo was NOT having his socks and shoes. I thought he was gonna have to go barefoot. But, the recording and all the options to make him feel like he was in control really helped! 😃 my first #winning toddler life IGTV!

Prior to me hitting record...

Teeth brushing has gone through so many phases. Went well for a while, wouldn’t do it for a while, now he’s obsessed with toothpaste... 🤦🏼‍♀️ #momcomedy #honestmom #toddlermom #parentingtips #toddlers #toddlersofinstagram #tiredmomsbelike #toddlerlife #parentingishard #momsbelike #tiktok #parentsbelike #momhumour #momhumor #funnymoms #parentingmeme #momprobs #bloggermom #sarcasticmom #momsbelike #mommeme #funnymoms #motherhood #momtruths #momstruggles #parentinghumour #parentsbelike #parentingmeme #parenting101 #myhonestmotherhood

Teeth brushing has gone through...

Episode #35. Renee chats with pediatric physiotherapist, Jennifer Halfin about all things physical development. They discuss the physical development milestone ranges (the ranges are huge by the way), tips for helping your little one to master certain skills, and playground safety. Milestones can be a very stressful part of parenting but, it doesn\'t have to be. We hope the information in this episode will be educational for parents and decrease any stress they may have around common physical milestones like sitting up, crawling, and walking.  @torontokidsphysio #themomroompodcast

Episode #35. Renee chats with...

And that is a fact. 😁 @gocleanco 
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And that is a fact....

Dear people who think the decision to have children should be based solely on whether you ENJOY playing with kids... #momcomedy #honestmom #toddlermom #parentingtips #torontomoms #toddlersofinstagram #tiredmomsbelike #toddlerlife #parentingishard #momsbelike #tiktok #parentsbelike #momhumour #momhumor #funnymoms #parentingmeme #momprobs #bloggermom #sarcasticmom #momsbelike #mommeme #funnymoms #motherhood #momtruths #momstruggles #parentinghumour #parentsbelike #parentingmeme #parenting101 #myhonestmotherhood

Dear people who think the...

Playing with Toddlers: It’s not fun… yeah, I said it.

Before having a child, I assume most people think about what life is going to be like with said child. You know you won’t get much sleep, you think about all the stuff you’re going to have to buy or have to give up. You look forward to doing things like going for a walk with the stroller or taking your child to the zoo. You imagine all the ways your life is going to change. Something I am sure most people do not think about is the amount of time you are going to spend playing with/entertaining your child. I know I didn’t think about it. Yet, this is literally what I spend most of my time doing. I am living a double life. I am Renee… but, I am also Renee the circus clown. Or at least that’s what it feels like.

I would bet money that most parents do not enjoy playing with their children… and why would they? They’re adults!

I used to wonder why all I wanted to do at 8:00pm was sit in a dark room and watch reality TV by myself. Don’t want to talk to anyone or do anything productive at all. Not even read a book because it’s too much “work”. Well, I figured out why! Entertaining/playing with a toddler is kind of like being in performance mode all day. You’re always ON. It’s exhausting. No wonder I just want to shut down some nights and ZONE OUT in front of any episode of any Real Housewives of any city. It’s like being a Wiggle… 24/7… and not getting paid for it.

Of course some moments are super special. Seeing your child develop and do or say new things is exciting. Toddlers are insanely cute. But, I still don’t love sitting on the floor making animal sounds in a high pitch voice and funny faces for 12 hours a day. I used to feel GUILTY about not enjoying playing with my son, but, then I realized… duh, of course I don’t enjoy playing with him… I’m an adult! I think the fact that I don’t enjoy driving mini cars around by hand going “vrooom” or putting little wooden puzzles together over and over (x100)  actually makes me pretty normal. I enjoy adult conversations, watching Bravo, social media, shopping, going to the movies, yoga, etc.

…of course there are enjoyable moments and it’s exciting when they do new things and act all cute…

I’m not a monster.

It is also important to note that just because a parent (I’m sure it’s all of us) doesn’t enjoy playing with their child, doesn’t mean that they don’t do it. It also doesn’t mean that they aren’t good at it or that they don’t put effort in. I am f*cking good at entertaining kids, especially my son. Do I slack sometimes because I’m tired or focused on something else. Yes. Is that okay? Yes. I know rationally in my head that independent play is important for children, and my son is so good at it. But, no matter how many times I tell myself this, I still feel guilty when I’m not giving him my full attention. That is something I am working on. It’s kind of like how you can’t rationalize your anxious feelings sometimes. Your brain says one thing but your feelings/emotions say another.

Just because I don’t enjoy playing with toddlers, doesn’t mean that I don’t do it, and it doesn’t mean that I don’t do it really f*cking well.

My goal for this blog post is to try and ease any guilt you may be feeling about not enjoying playing with your child. It’s normal! I don’t think many people like to admit it because they feel like people are going to judge them/think they’re not a good parent OR that they don’t like being a parent or having a child. That is all complete bullshit. So, it’s okay if you don’t enjoy pushing your child around on a toy car for 45 minutes while your back is aching. They’re having the time of their lives I’m sure. And, that’s why we do it. But, I am going to start to try and enjoy his independent play time and tell that mom guilt to f*ck right off. The clown needs a break.

XOXO Renee Reina

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4 Comments
  • Gwenna Laithland
    May 25, 2020

    You’re the best. I don’t want to say it but I agree. I hate playing with my toddlers. Except when I get out the kinetic sand. That shit is the best.

  • Alison Elliott
    May 25, 2020

    Truth ! You tell the truth that is mom truly NEED to hear ! Live you girl !

    • Alison Elliott
      May 25, 2020

      Us! Lol #MomBrain

  • Kim MacIsaac
    May 25, 2020

    Love it Renee!! Ditto being a grandparent-I think people believe that’s even worse.

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